I am learning that my boys' first response to working through conflict is hashing it out in living room floor. Being raised amongst all girls, this is new to me. Girls find that grudge holding a slamming doors is much more effective. Ahem.
"Boys. Out of the floor right now. Grant you are here. Ethan you are here. Separate couches. Now, tell me what happened."
I sometimes laugh inwardly at this question. I suppose I'm wanting to hear, "Mommy, we are fallen man. Adam should have stopped Eve. That fruit should have never been eaten. But they did eat it and now we desperately need Jesus."
That would be easier to work with than, "But Grant was in the way and I couldn't see the game and he pushed me and I pushed him back and....."
"Now, I want you all to look at each other and apologize." Simultaneously -"Sorry Grant/Ethan. I forgive you."
But sour faces still remained and I could see Grant mentally recording this one on his 'How I've Been Wronged' list."
"Guys, you all love each other. You're the best of friends. Let's take a minute to celebrate one another. Grant...look at Ethan and tell him one thing you love so much about him."
He turned his pinched face to me.
"Go on. One thing you love."
Love covers a multitude of sin. 1 Peter 4:8
"O.K. Ethan, I love it that you'll play football with me."
{Grins coming on}
Ethan's tiny voice replied, "Yeah. You're pretty good. I love it that Grant is a good reader."
{Full giggles}
They don't like this little exercise. But they love this little exercise.
Covers (kalyptÅ) - not to regard. To hinder the knowledge of a thing.
Wow. Read that again. Love hinders the knowledge of sin. Love disregards an offense.
Huey Lewis was right, "That's the Power of Love."
Do you see what happened? Love covered up their silly offenses toward each other. Love disregarded their wrong doing.
And upon asking His forgiveness, Jesus' love disregards our sin, too. He could easily pinch his face and keep record of all our wrong against Him. But he pardons us. His knowledge of our sin is hindered. He remembers it no more. As far as the east is from the west. (Psalm 103:12)
Amazing. Absolutely amazing.
Love covers a multitude of sin. 1 Peter 4:8
Have you been wronged by someone? Today, will you ask Jesus to fill you with His great love and affection for that person? Wrongdoing does not stand a chance in light of His love.
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Hey Becky, I think we live in the exact same world. I have heard of doing this and have done it with my kids, but forgot about it. Thanks for the reminder, I needed it! Love you!
ReplyDeleteI love this idea and don't know why I haven't thought of it for my kids because my husband and I do it when we are struggling through an issue because it helps us remember that we are on the same side - even if we don't always agree. I guess now it's time to use it with the kids!
ReplyDeleteI've made my kids hold hands after fighting in the van, but I haven't had them say what they love about each other. Great idea! Love really does cover offenses, huh?! My happy for the day: Cody wasn't feeling well this morning when I went to wake him up, so I decided that he was staying home {obviously not the happy part!} When I told Elizabeth about it, she said, "Aw!" in a sad voice. I wonder sometimes, but today it was proven that she cares about her brother! ♥
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful post! When hearts are thankful and full of good things, it's hard to focus on the bad things. I love brothers.
ReplyDeleteLove it! such a good thing for all parents to be reminded of. There is such power in the truths of God's word - if only we remember to think about it in the midst of our stuff!
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